avoiding conflict?

had an interesting chat with a male colleague today
about avoiding conflict in marriage
to me personally
avoiding conflict is not an excuse to lie
lying will ultimately create a bigger problem
don't be a different person when he or she is not around
and entirely a different person when he or she is around just to show your "clean" attitude
respect him or her
With or without their presence
and have good faith in people close to you
treat other people the way you want them to treat you
what you give you get back